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Episode · 10 months ago

Shelf to Self development

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In this episode I talk with my good friend Rob Cardenas a successful entrepeneur and Personal Development junkie about the concept of Shelf Development to Self Development, we also talk about the importance of taking action, note taking, pivoting, good communication and relationships. This has been one of my favorite episodes to date and It's full on gold nuggets everywhere, this is one of those where you might want to get out your journal and take some notes! I hope you enjoy this episode and If you do please Share with a friend, comment, like, and rate it with 5 stars so other people know we are sharing value on this podcast! 

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Yoah welcome everybody to as t glorythat en intoday's episode. I know I haven't done an episode in a littlewhile Don' don't judge me? Okay, don't be on my stuff. No just kidding, Ihaven't been uploading as much podcast as I'd like to it's been a mind.Battlet's been a struggle of selfdevelopment and self trust self confidence, a lot ofself issues that I've been struggling with, but you know what this is. Whycretit this podcast. So we can talk about this topics. We can talk about sodebeliment. We can talk about the growth and and to show up. You know to be thereand to just do it. You know get that Nice spiriet on that three percent. TorMindset O way it doesn't matter what already happened. What matters is thatyou hear now and what you're going to do now so now, what I'm going to do isthat I'm going to have an incredible conversation with my friend RobCardinas. This man wait until you hear him. He has a very interesting topicfor today and its self development to no shelf debelopment to selfdebulloment was that the topic rob Yes, yes, so let me introduce this man toyou. I met him in my community. The dailyawakening right he's from Michigan right turn outside of Etroi.Well, this man he has opened so many restaurants. He has been with so manyworld class leaders. He has got so much knowledge in side of in that every timehe opens his mouth. He just blows everyone away. He has ome incredibleability to capture and remember movments and justbring him back to the now. That is just astonishing. So Rob. Let's talk aboutthis interesting topic that you brought up in, let's hear in man. How are youdoing today, wat O my friend I were the most colorful or not colorfut, but themost patternd shirt I own, because I thought yeah, I didn't know we'regnnwear a shirt today or you know if ou don't a GN, no have a color, so I wanto dress up for Yot. That's it! Thank you, Mon appreciated, so yeah. So something that's occurredto me recently and it was. It was a post toty about selfdevelopment and youknow how important it is an everything else, and you know one of the things that youmentioned our community and we know you and I met through the Daly wakeingcalls with Shahngi Murphy and if you haven't heard about it, please get withLouis Louis, and you know he'll hook you up, but I've actually been a partof the daily Waking Group since the first week. It started so now we're atsix hundred and eighty SOM episodes and I can't believe it, but the thought of you know the shiny new object.Everybody wants something new everyody wants, Tho, like you know the greatestdelatest to whatever you know the buzz word, the you know the Cook, the quickgetric, quick or the or the skim or this, or that it occurred to me that you know I'm.You know I have a lot of stuff. I A lot of notes. I've been to a lot of events.I bought a lot of books. I try to you know, you know enbecame myself and aabreast of what's going on in the you know and news and the media topofthings, but you know you have to put them in action. My friend, so that'skind of what I've been I'm working on this. You know this. You know like apodcast theme, Myself Shelf to Selfdevelopment. So we have you know. Ihave all these books on the shelf. I mean, like you, know some of the topones and you know, but if you don't actually put the stuff into action andI'm calling myself out, you know I mean you have to actually read some stuff.You know like listen. Listening versus hearing two different things, twodifferent things that can be a whole nother topic, but it's it's a big dealwhere you know- and you don't have to you- don't have to do big big leaps.Everybody wants to. Actually you know just you know, I'm Goingto do I'm goingto go. You know zero. Sixty and three point five seconds. You don't reallyhave to do that. You know the power of Kaizan. You know I want one tenth ofyou know: one percent, you know getting better every day to you know to makeincremental change. That's what's going to be the magic, so you know I oftentalked about Hashtag missfit magic with our morning group, because you know wecall ourselves morning missis, because we know we don't really. We might not.Actually we wouldn't have been friends, probablyyou know anywhere else in society, but we found a community that we foundonline and from all over the world. It is the most special group I ever been apart of, and you know that's why I'm...

...here today with you I mean I, you know it's just amazing, so that's kind ofthat's kind of like you know the Beter, the basis yeah man, it's veryinteresting that you bring up the action part and obviouslyit's going to show up in the conversation, because we all know thataction is what gets those results. But on this past days I've been thinkingabout it very, very hard. Why? Because I haven't been doing my podcast, thatthat has had me like Whoa. I started this movement. This action, this thingthat a lot of people actually would love to be doing, and I got it I'm notdoing it and then I started reading my journal S. I got a lot of journals toofrom all the trainings that I've been on and I was like Whoa. I got all ofthis knowledge that changes lifes. Definitely one hundred percent canchange everyone's lives. That reads it, but it's bottled knowledge. It's knowledgethat I'm not using because yeah I recollected it, but when am I puttingin intuation in my day today, life and you got it's very, very, very powerfulwhen you start applying that knowledge thatyou've actually received over the year Saing, you got a lot of it, so we wantto hear more about it. Well, okay, so let me just say you so what hadoccurred to me? Also as as I have been reading, I'm GONTA say thisreintroduced to fos ideas, concepts. I started going over my journals and Ican't stress enough- I mean- and I I'll call myself out again- I don't journalas often as I should. I am, but I'm not going to kick myself in the you knowwhat, because I've actually gotten so much better in the past year and as Itold you BEF, you know when we spoke just before I started a Catalogu and look a and put tabs on my old journalswith you know, maybe the speaker or the the topic, and you know I stertednumber pace number. So I can actually then a quick, a quicker referencethings when I'm, you know either in front of somebody or with the group orot a zoom, and you know it's. There is no wrong way. You organize it!How you want your own mind, I'm actually working out o a new group witha new computer program that actually is going to help me to do like a thredmodel. Essecially, it's an I on O place. It, like my mind, is which is extremely exciting. So that'ssomething that's coming soon as well, but it's interesting because you know youdon't know what you don't know, but when you journal and Youwen you realizethatit's like the season new stuff. Like I'm hearing this same things, it'sbeen, maybe he's got a new bow on it or this or that, but you know all you know. It's been said that youknow your journals. Are Your uncast checks, Ray Haygan says that and it's it's trueI mean it's like. You have all thise ideas and I actuallydo like three coents I as just really Cil, when I reade my nose like I'll.Actually, you know write down what I'm listening to that. I actually mightwrite down my y. You know second CA. Il Ye write down what you know what Ashhould I need to take,or maybe a goal, and then on the small area on the far side or Youven Kno hefarte Av depending Pon the paper you have. If you have e little lines in themargin, then I might write down like like, likesome, neither crick dates of what I want to accomplish that or you know,maybe an additional action step. So I call like third column, like youknow, ere, I'm tabling my idea and that just allows me to organize it again. Do,however, you want, but it's just when I'm able to write down a couple, littlekeywords or my own little. You know colography or my own code or somethingwhere then, when I'm going back and reviewing that I can actually get backto where my thought was because this is what happens is like you have so manythoughts per day that you don't even you know you can't even you can't getthem afl, you can't remember Hem all, but I'm learning an onpracticine,that's the key word practicing to actually get I better at it everyday and it's just crazy. Now you mentioned my hospitality background. I I'll remember, maybe not somebody'sname from ten years ago, but I'll remember what they drank. You know and I'll be able to actuallygive him their. You know their coctail in the exact way or or the type of linethat they had and again that just takes practice to you know. But you know, however, you do it. I don'tknow w what are some of the things that you do to try to remember things...

...yeah here we go wher we go. I turnedoff o microphone. I really take notes during training, speciallyI'm not a big journalling guy during my day today I know it. I should add it tomy daily habits, because it is very good to remember everything, but how I,how I take my notes in how I journal, I don't have really a style, I'm verycreative with it sometimes, for example, Ou here a wordlike men. I don't know the how to makesomeone smile and I just dross myly face with a question mark. No, I try tosave as much time and get as much information as Iy, possibly can in asless words because here's the thing during a training during a classeverything is going fast. phace time is not stopping. We know that right. So how can I get the most value to passonto other people, because when I'm taking notes, I'm not thinking just onme, I'm thinking on Wow. This can serve so much people, and I take notes as ifI would, as Sufi were the teacher. So for me, it's very, very important to to take shareble notes to take notesthat I can actually teach in a way that that I can transmite the message andmake it as mine right, because thete's something that shants always say istake my knowledge and use it for your own benefit. So I really really focus on that. Let me let me check mynotes. Oh this is a perfect example for the people who are watching the video Idraw I touch out. I do it's literallyeverything I can to get the message out and ask fewwords as I can so yeah, I'm very definitely I don't have a style oftaking notes, I'm just very creative with them, wellthat's your style, yeah and again,that's what I'm saying we're like you know, use that other. You know why callthird com where you just basically you know. However, you can rememberyourself, that's that's! For you I mean some people are righthanded. Somepeople are left Handand, some people, you know whatever you know. I don'tknow. Some people are curly air. Some people don't, but you know it's suits their own andwhatever works for you then do it I mean done. Is The new perfect? That'sone of the big key phrases that I heard this year that I one of my takeawaysdone is gen perfect. I turned this off again, so talk to me a little bit more about thisshelf knowledge. What what do you call this shelf knowledgeand why do you say its selfdevelopment? Well, the whole idea really is to you knowthe idea of shelf toself is put it in action, so you can buy the book. Youcan, you know, buy the program, the video, the DVD, theBluetooth Yalia, but if you don't put it into action and o really makeitseldevelopment that it's that it's only as good as it, you know as theamount that you paid for it but yeah. Yet I keep going back to someof the old classics, though I mean you know, but it's, but it's really fun tobe able to actually just just honestly fifteen minutes.Fifteen pages just do it, I mean I'm still dealing with procrastination.I mean you know, I come on, be honest, everybody like just you know, who's whoprprastinates you know or you're strolling through their technology, oryou know before that it used to be the you know like just the TV and you knowand Mideos, and you know you're, going to always find stuff that you know getinterrupted by I find out, and you know I found in mylife, you get you get complacent, you get busy, I right now I have well. I have threekids and you know I just got married. You know it's exciting and everythingelse, but you know with jobs and kids and their activities and everythingelse you know it gets. It gets bouged on and you know so you get it's Easytoet complacent and then fall in line to whatever job you have or wherver. Youknow what activities you're doing and it becomes mundane and I'll be honest. You have to break out of it. You haveto break out of it like we watch so much more out of life, but it doesn'thave to be the you know. The you know the bigger a the race car, the BigHouse on the Shopon, the hill or by the...

...beach or whatever you know they can andyou can get there and hit can be there. But you know Celebrati your little victories,celebrate the you know the family that you have. I mean right now with youknow all this you know lockdowns and right now, michigans actually like own in some mat fashions so like thehospitality industry at hotels stops out for three weeks in Michigan againand it's a real serious thing and people are, people are hurt and peopleare also wanting that connection, I'm very blessed. I have a ninety six yearold, grandmother and she's. I just saw forr today and she's just like I'mgoing nuts, because I want to get out and fortunately she's not savvy withthe computer, so she's not on zoom. She does go to my aunt's house like once aweek and gets on you know and on a zoo with with people from Church and forChurch and whatnot, but that that willing that egerness to actuallyconnect with people is so vital. Right now so being grateful, that's a big Muswordfor two thousand and twenty, and as it should have been and should be forever,it makes a big deal. We actually have a friend that has a gratitude, call a oneo'clock every day and it's actually about the Magic Ronda Burn, and I gotto tell you this is actually the exarcises in thisbook and actually allowed me to start dreaming again to start reallyenvisioning things, and we need that. We need that connection. We need that. You know the goals because againbeaware of the one dam, my friend, so if it's sitting on a shelf dust it off, pull it out, pick it up,put it into action. That's that's! Really what what what I'm developing? Well, it's! You said a lot of powerfulthings. I there one was the small winds. I think that as humansprocrastingnation comes from wanting big wins. It's like Oh yeah. For me.For me, it's I'm doing the podcast. Okay, it's not getting one hundred Osanbuse! So I'M NOT GOING! No do it again! It'slike we don't celebrate those small wins and because we don't celebrate thesmall things we have in life, important things right, like senor son, seeingyour mom, your wife people forget about this, and that's I think that it's whenwe start getting into the mundane, because we don't celebrate the smallthings we don't celebrate when we wake up and we see the sunshining, it's likewow lk, look at what a beautiful song. Let's celebrate today. I there's a sunout, I'm breathing. Let's celebrate there's no, but we always wantsomething big, a big spectacular, big day or birthday, our anniversary,Valentines Ay. We wait for the big moments and by wanting those bigmoments that big hard elambo right, we forget about Whoa, I'm here right now, I'm with my friends I'm with I'm alive and that that goes directly into beinggrateful. We get into that and I'm having a breakthrough right now. Inside of me, it's like my procrastination, comes from notcelebrated so masterbating those small wings winds, not wings from not being grateful, because that'sanother huge thing, that's why Danniella is doing so good with thatcalled she's teaching people how to be grateful and through that book that isso powerful rob. Can you show the book again? I don't have it with me, but forthe people who are watching the the bisual experience the magic by RondaBird, I so encourage you to buy this bookright now, I'm going to live a link to Anamazon shopping who's who sellingthis book. It's Jis, not in a filly link just by the book. Really it's sucha good book thatwill get you in that gratitude state because listen to thisepeople, everything we do is based on the statethat we are so let's imagine this to day I went out to the street. I had anamazing day. I met a lot of cool people wow. It was an amazing day. Iam such USgood dude, I'm a cool dude, but the other day. The next day I went, and Ifucked up something work. Oh I'm so stupid what changed between yesterday andtoday that yesterday I was such a great person, a cool dude, and today I'm astupid guy. It was the state you were in. So...

...when you start getting into thiscelebrating those small winds, the being grateful, you are changing your state, and thisis something Shaungy Murphys, so amazing at I gotta give the prop tothis. Do that he just came into my mind, he's a state changer and we both know rob that we can purposelychange our state, therefore creating more connection, not only with otherpeople, but with ourselves with our mind. It's this is something sopowerful, because we all we all need. We allcrave that connection in a lot of times. Tell me if you've been in the situationthat you're surrounded by people, yet you feel alone. It's because you don't have thatintimacy with yourself. You don't have that connection with the higher youwith with your mind, with your subconscious right and again it all rounds up in the smallwinds. If you're not grateful for the small things in your life, then you'renot going to be grateful for the good things when they come hisyou're alwaysgoing to be waiting for some big act, you're always going to be waiting for the perfect day and the worst part about it. Is thatprobably it's never going to come the perfect day rob tell me if something in yourwedding day didn't go wrong. At least one thing. Welllet me just say: Thot, one of theone of the things that went wrong was that nobody gave the bride the Qu toactually start walking down the isle, she's actually upstairs, and then she'slike hearing this so long because we had planned it, but then she's like Wai Awai Wa, wait! No, I mean that's mysong. I mean I need to be walking out. She was about you, know three or fourminutes behind actually starting to walk down the aisle to for the ceremony.So yeah, no, I mean well, you want to talk about a pimit.You Know Two thousand and twenty here. That's you knowi mean we had to. Youknow change all of our plans, everything you know. We had to cancelthe hall and everything else, but the one thing we didn't want to cancel wasour date, so we got married ten, ten, two thousand and twenty, and I got totell you and as we were AV reflected here, thelast well, today's six weeks and and it's we basically were like you know we kindof forgot about you know this challenge, this challenge that what we did oh well,we had to Chane O. do this or wealy. You know fire that person and the hirethis person actually are efficiant texted us what five days before and said that hecouldn't do it we're like what wo Somebo various I mean it was so yeah.A lot of things happened and we rolled with it. So we really didn't rememberall the crap, because it was we had it at our house and our backyard. Theweather was absolutely perfect in Michigan n October, and it was you knowwe were made baseal we had tables far apart. A big huge ten in the backsewing a social distance for for making sure people fell safe. We had foodtracks, so you know people can just stand apropriately Aliin and get theirfood. It went off great and you know what thebottom line is. We wanted our date. We wanted to do it for ourselves andnobody else and I'll be honest as you get older andeverything else, and if you can learn this as you can, if you're younger Imean do it for yourself. First, it's not for anybody else, because you knowwhat we could have pushed. We could havesaid you know. Well, you know we can't do this. We can do that. I had a lot ofmy family not feel safe and not come and that's okay. They wish me well aslove me, I was very, very blessed and very excited. I put it on zoom and Iinvited a lot of our our you know our morning group and I grada true groupand you know, and so people were able to actually see t on zoom from all verthe world, and that was cool and I got to tell you thoug, but I almost didn'tdo it because I almost felt like you know, wha nyou know th Ey, don't Don t reallythey don't. You know we're not like I', never met a blo of these people inperson, but yet for almost two years for some of the Group IV, you knowdeveloped this relationship online and have more f a connection than some people, I've known for twentyyears, so it was very special to be able toactually feel the love but show the love, and I wanted him to be able toshare the love,...

...especially in two thousand and twenty,and so my Brian and I are this- is both this is round two for both of us and itwas extremely special and we're not going to take any for brandon anymore.We're just not we're wa. You know. No no excuses, so our love is going to beour love and we're going to do the best for our kids and for ourselves and justto be you know I want to be a better dad. She must be a better mom, but wewant to be. You know better spouses to each other. First and just you gotto put yourself out thereand you just got to roll with the punches. It's never going to be perfect.That's what I said. Dun is the new perfect. You know I mean I don't havemy storydownpad. I don't have all the answers, but the circle of people that amearound though, and the you know you talk about changing your state. Let me just say: I've wanted actuallyin this House that I've been in now a couple years. I watch blackout shades and because soI can actually maybe sleep an extra hour, because the sun comes directly in nthis time of year, right now in November the Sun at you know at sunrise.It comes directly through my window and hits me Right Square in the face andI'm okay, I'm an early riser anyway, but you know I love the sunrits. It'samazing, I mean I used to wake up and go running and you know when I was arunner. That's another story, but it's you know I can choose it's like. Oh God,you know it's like. I gotta Wake Up Oro this at whatever, and you know it'slike you know w black black way eyes an whatnot. I absolutely love it. I absolutely lovehaving Thi son actually wake me up in the morning. I don't need to set analarm. I do occasionally just because yea I want to make sure I'm you know ontime, for you know either a call or or or getenough for the kids, but the Suner wight be up. You said again a lot of things and the first thing you said that caught myattention really hard was to pibit it's something. We've been listening. We'vebeen hearing a lot. I think the past three months, H, upww Tony Robins, hasbeen all over it. Den Raciosi has been all over it piboting a lot of times. We think we're gonna, we're Goinna, do somethinga certain way. It's going to turn out perfectess, Oh yeah, yeah, I'm going tostart my career, I'm going to open this new restaurant. This is the topic I'm.This is the the theme I'm wanting for it. This the location, then Colbet hits everything changed. Whatthe Fuckim I'm GOIN NA do now. I was in Piare three almost four monthsago. Never Imagining! I would be here andthen suddenly quarantine. I went crazy. I said okay,I cannot be here anymore. I got plans, I saw them here, but it's time to Pi it.Let's do something different. I went. I move here out to New York fresh DI. Idon't know new Koree, I'm a real estate now also into were marketing. I never would have imagined I would begetting into real estate. I like real estate. I just never sawmyself in it, but pivoting. It's such an atbentageousthing to do because the's Te thing family, it's never going to turn out like youwant. It's t e truth. It's most probably not gonna, be how you imaginedit. opportunally has a very interesting thing about it andit's that it a lot of times come from a different door in a different shape andcolor than you thought you would have it. You thought you were going to get richby trading right, it's a hot topic and then suddenly you realized that whatyou really liked was making carton shirts and you started making cotton shirtsand that's yours thing and you got a big ass company. Now it's calledpivoting people. Do It don't be afraid of change, don't be afraid of doingsomething different now another thing you said what rub was to it foryourself: First, it's not for anybody else. I'm Young, I'm twenty, I'mturning twenty one in two months, four months, three months. So it's something that I'm getting thehang on now and especially to me. It comes in in love, right, I'm crazy!With relationships, I love being in love, I hate being being in love. Ihate being out of love too, because...

...it's like a it's a balance. But that'sthat's something me you know, but the thing is that a lot of the times I want to be in arelationship, because I want to do something with someone else. I want todo something conjunction right that that union that partnership, but I'venoticed in the in Te couple past months that a lot of the Times I take that asas an excuse to do something for someone else and not for me recently. I want ID I've always wantedto open a clothing brand. I started with the ID of Te years ago. I let itgo. I don't know why it's something I do. I start something I don't finish itthen I take it back again and I continue working on it. But this is something personal. Maybe thegirl will listen to this and she'll say: okay, he's talking about me that Dick,but I was reating this girl and- and I wastalking about my ideas of the clothing brand and I was like Oh yeah. I want todo this, but I don't know I've never like. I started it on my own, but Iwant to do it with someone else and I started like leaning on her to startthe brand and then I notice Weigt, I'm not doing it for myself, I'm doingit for her. She wants it. She wants to doit. I want to do it, but I'm doing itmore for her, because if I reallywanted to do it, I would do it for myself. So when you said that phrase,it's not for anybody else, it really hit me because I do that a lot. I I trie to impress people by doingthings for them without first doing it for me. So thank you for that. One, Ithink, is going to retonate with a lot of the young people who are listeningto this podcast, because it's something that I think we deal with is just partof the growth and becoming aware and the experience right, because for meI've. I think I have a lot of knowledge for my age. I, like the experience,yeah. No, you do and again thiswas awesome, though I mean you getto actually say in your S, make as many mistakes as you can. Youknow obviously don't be. You know, make sure they're got too serious, but Imean, but you know, but try and ask why ask that's ID. That's been a buzz word:Yeah Ayeah, that's another one, O thesart, two vots, I'm actually readingright now, Wel I've already finished, but I mean I'Mrereading it though, but it's Interesting Tho, but ask why my high school principl you now I laughed when reading the bookand everything else, but because he asked to me he's like. Why do you askwhy, like you ask why so many times- and I said I well, I said I just wantto push the envelop. Well, we've been doing this for twen years. This way,I'm like why likehwhy can', we do it this way and there's been a couplethings that the S on. You know that I remember in high school and he actually, when I graduated and evenyears later, Hhe said he says you know what Becaese I like it. I like it. The wayyou that you suggested and we'v been doing it and then even in my twentyyear reunion now it's thirty year reunion this year was this year, but they've been doing a couple things inmy old high school, the same way that when you know thegroup and the Sumen counsol that I was involved with, because it was neverjust me that, but they now those became the new traditions and they've beendoing it the new way. For thirty years now I mean again it's all and how you wantto present it and everything else, but challenge you kow go ahead and shitsokay to challenge things I mean you know, have good discussions. I think so.I think right now, though, we're still sil so charged up about. You know thepolitics and then you know- and you know either you know this coveen andthis tat. Whatever that you know, you can't have a civil conversation anymoreand that's unfortunate and we need to really give back. Then you know andhave that just that stability and understand that you know there aregoing to people, be people in difference in opinions and differentbackgrounds and and ideas, and there they're the same thing:they're the same boat, they're, trying to challenge they're, trying to ask whyand themselves ask why of you know where they're at and what they're doing?And as long as we understand that you know this world will be a betterplace, and you know so in your twentis. Louise...

...have added my friend and you know, andif I can actually just be, you know, you know help on some of my experiencethat you know, then you could actually maybe do something quicker. That'sreally my rol right now and I'm going back actually into my ties through mynotes, through my journals, through some experiences and quickly playing them in my mind, toactually help with my roadbap for my future and it's been fun, and I alsohanging out with you and some other people that are younger and it's fun, because it's making my mindspark again. You know I'm mentioned to you know I mean I fail. I F Business Oifailed, you know, but Y is I's. Just part of my journeyis partly who I am is part of where I you know how I'm, where I'm at and that's, okay and then and there'sthere's some really good things that have come out of some of those failures. You know I just we talked about it. Ijust got married again and I we both couldn't be happier. I mean you knowit's unfortunate, that you know the firsttime round didn't work out, butsome great experiences. So great love. So you know we have wonderful childrenand I wouldn't I wouldn't change it. I wouldn't change it. I've grown and I've gotten better andyou know that's all you. Anybody can do. You'RE gonna, you're gonna have some. You know likesome things along the way that are going to be bumpy, but it's how you,actually you know, dust off and po pick yourself back up and, and you know,make it happen or make something of yourself, but I really can't stressEnoug, though do it for yourself. First, you know toooften were ou now always trying to you know, measure up or impress it's not really worth it. I mean itreally. Isn't I mean you know I mean I just you know being good a human beingand trying to you know just give better yourself and challenge yourself, butalso challenge yourself with the people that you hanging out with, because you know youtruly are the you know the sum of pretty much the five people that youhang out with all the time and I'm blessed to a found this you knowmorning group and it gets US rechars and our mindset set up for the day.podcast like this and talking with you, you know every time I know we talk, Iget something out of it and so that I can. Actually you know, I'm writingnotes. Right now is up, you know, whereas I just you know full littlebullet points and everything else, the clothing line thing. Ironically, I have some friends thatare involven. I Om the Erald codi lines and you know I actually thought about it.You know putting together our nittle another line. If you will last week- because you know I love tirect, some ofmy own sayings and some of my own thoughts and and because I think Ithink it's pretty good, I think that most of us, you know, would agree thatyou know you need to. Actually you know be able to do something pick out. Youknow fink of a good book to motivate yourself music. I mean you know it'sreally interesting, because you talked about Shelshan as Chnow Shangy Murphyhas changed and everything else. So when we started this Martin inmismitgroup, he was a word of the day and heexpanded on a word and then it just got into more stories and more interactive.Th N. We kdow we have the rest of us, shared and and now after Affergett nout, the exact,but it was like, but it was after six hundred where he started actuallysaying up and doing music and everything else and were you know, andhe was learning from Tony Robins and and I'm not afraid to say, shods a whole othan me, and so you know he can learn and I can learn. That means you knowthese young kids gointo learn to do itever. The Lot. Definitely definitely definitely man-and I remember when Sean started standing up, and I remember that hesaid why have I been doing all of thise calls sitting down when I'm on stage, I'm standing h andit really changed his state and it changed our state and it's definitely small tweeks can make abig difference. I agree one hundred percent on that. It's very very true.Now something you said earlier to was field. The love show the love Sherdelov.This is something I cannot stress more about, and it's mainly because I don't showthe love. I feel the love. I share the love. I don't show it so it's something that if you're listening to this field, thelow shit, a love and show the love and shared o love, but...

I think most importantly- and it'smainly, I just think this, because I don't do it- is showing the love like how much people are in your life thatare important to your family members that you don't show them that you careabout them. Maybe it's your partner that you've been with for a couple ofyears now hand it's got in monotonous and you don'tyou don't show that that love anymore, it's so important to show thataffection towards people, because it's free, that's that's it's free! It'sliterally, you don't have to pay absolutely anything to say A. I loveyou to to go and take her out to the park and have a nice conversation toask about how has been your day and it's it's so important, because, ifwe're seeking connection- and we know that during this time, specificallywe're in the middle of a pandemic, this hasn't happened since, like onethousand nine hundred and forty, I think it was it's Ie d eighteenyeah,one thouand, nine hunded and eighteen, it's a rare Arcasian. So right now we're gonna disconnect. Eventhough we got social media and all that Bollshit, it's not enough. We need thatreal connection with people and I the most effective way of doing that isshowing the love to people to actually reaching out hey. How are you, how haveyou been how's the family? How? What are you doing lately? I don't do thisand I just had a conversation with my mom. I think I was like three or fourdays ago. She was like Ei Call Your grandpa from time to time. You knowthey die and afterthey died, there's no coming back from it and I was like Shityou're right. I don't because I don't call anybody, I don't sex anybody, I'm really. I talk a lot, but I'm not a a person to reach out. Idon't I've never been like that. I'm kind of closed in that sense, and lately it has been like reaching tome like they am Louis, like there's so muchpeople in your life that actually care about you, because they do show it. But it's like if they're talking to awhile and I feel bad because it's like I'm not I'm not thet would be Embe Hol. How do you saythis word returning, I'm not returning that affection towards them, but whynot? Why? Why do we close our feelings towards the people who we care about,or even if it's a new relationship a lotof times and and this is more for the young generation, because the oldpeople like Robin Yeahwath, you nono, no no ly kidding but yeah like as people, ask young people that arestill like understanding this thing about love and don't have a lot ofexperience in I'm apice s? I don't know if this hasanything to do about it. Ro Are you in places to Sa Somarso Sixomo? So you understand mea lot of this we're sentimental. I think we're very emotional, so I lean a lot towards the Lovesidt, soyou're going to hear me in a lot of podcast complaining about love, notcomplaining, but just wishing my love situation was better and I know it willget better with time. But you know when, when we're getting intothis of meeting someone new, I know that we feel, like we've been led downwe're. Probably this happened, yeah you're totally right. It happens a lot, but I feel that a lot of times we closeourselves to showing our feelings and showing ourlove because someone else in the past, let us down. So when you said Fedo love show te Lovshare the love, that's what I thought about like just I know in my circle so,like my young people circle, there's a lot of people who are scared of fallingin love because someone else Fucke them up in the inside and they closed themselves completely tofeeling and showing and it's I know it's very detrimental to them. So robwhat could you say because I'm not in the best situation to talkabout it? No, you know yeah. No, I mean I don't now Youhav a specific question,but no ohasome thoughts, just so madbisis on that. So let me okaythinking back. I basically, I always try to put myself out there...

...and it's funny. Actually all you really have to do is just bereal and have a real conversation. You know, if you know you find somebody alike. You know, you're nervous, your. Maybe your palms are sweaty. You knowyour arm Pitch Ot, on whatever I mean everybody has their own thing whatever,but always Hav the opportunities toactually just be. You know, be mee and just say you know, I say hello andeverything else and pobby sell out. There's you know earlyon to. Basically you know get let down,but I look back and I think it's like youknow that wasn't really meant to be, and sometimes when you know there thereare reasons why doors closin your life, whether it be your relationship or ajob or you know different things. You don't know what you know. God has instore for it, so they know something that may be shut. You have to be justopen minded to actually truly just say you know maybe t, maybe that wasn'treally meant to be. Maybe there is something better and if you believethat I guarantee there will be so you Manson you commented about, youknow you kind of maybe have you're basically worried about. You,know San Yo Putin yourself out there because you had hurt before it's. It is going to happen, but now I alsothink that communication is so vital in anywhere and even even now, in my ageand second marriage and everything else. You know it's one of my favorite quotesand it's been ever since I was in college in my early is Alfred Lartennison and he he said the word even the mostcontradictory word preserves contact. It is silence which isolates the wordeven the most contradictory word. So you know you can argue you can. Youknow, have discussions, but if you're able to you know at least beopen an honest with each other and tell you t tell each other how you feelthat's pesuring contact now the yelling, the shouting, the whatever the socialmedia you know like hitting the you know the keyboard and this annowwhatever and and andnor believing what other people that aren't even involvedin the situation. What they're saying? Because I think webuy into all that other rhetoric and the other people and the other stuffthat is happening and somebody else's comments, or you trust. Maybe you knowyou think it's your best friend and that person got hurt and then youpresent your situation, and you know what I'll be honest, they're going tobe like, Oh yeah, you know what that happened to me too, and you know yeah,that's going to happen to you. Oh yeah, that's going to be that's exactlywhat's going to happen? No, it's not. Are you kidding me? It's like it's, notevery situation's different, but we trust our advisors and sometimes a'rereally close, and not that you can't get good advice, but we made mountains.Ou molehills. If you literally just talk to somebody OUP front honest in anice tone with no judgment you're going to go so much farther to result aconflict and realize it wasn't that big to begin with, I almost guarantee I wouldn't have beendivorced, and so it can happen in your ts. Youknow- and I know people s an s that you know that issue and had people haveissues. Youall have issues, but we listen to all this stuff. You know thatit doesn't really make any it's. Not even it's all small stuff. You don'tdon't sweat the small stuff, it's all somall stuff. So again the word eventhe most contradictor ward preserves contact. You know if you're able totalk about it in a nice, you know professional, easy going manner. Youcan resolve it and if you can do that, you can move forward. You can pinit and make the best of thesituation and then decide together, there's nothing better than to actuallyfind iw Carolin and I almost passed on our love together because we had kids.We were both. You know within a couple years of divorce. Thinking it's likeYoh. Well, you know. Second, second, marriage is people said: Oh you got tobe careful. You know. We've had some friends that you know that,unfortunately they couldn't they had is ses and they couldn't actually see thatyou know this was something real and even getting engaged and going forward.We're like you know what we're worth it like we're worth it.

Maybe I won work out but Damit. Webelieve that we think we can do this and we love each other and and we gotour kids together and they found to be good friends and- and you know what again, with our wedding date like wedidn't want to change because of covid. You know we wanted our ten ten wothousand and twenty. That's just something that we talked about and wethought about, and you know, and so we we were grateful. So you know we feltthe love. We showed the love W t. You know we shared it with our friends, ourfamily first and then at ow with technology. I was able toshow the love T at you know ad our ANZOM for the wedding and that's that's,sharing it and we're sharing it every day and we're opening our hearts andour home to friends and family. When we can, you know in small groups now, butat the same time, on Zoom and everything else, and I can't even Tay how many, how many youknow well wishes. I got for my family and friends and from you know near andfar and the thank you for actually showing you know the zoom ceremony, and you know we had again. We were sociallydistance and you know outside and everything else, but it was. It was theevent for almost all of our guests on the year, because there's not manyevents happening. You know we were a small group, but yetyou know at the same time they were just like this was this was reallyawesome ton. Thank you very much for including you know and as much as theygave us. You know I never ratheras much as wegave they gave us much more in return, and you have to do that. I was veryblessed to have some childhood friends to be in antendance as well and nothingmore special than being able to actually connect with people and it I doesn't take much.You said it just. You know, picking up that phone Sendi e text. You know I challenge it. You know just send outthree three well wishes a day. Three messages same contact, and it doesn'thave to be something big. You know you don't have to. Actually you know, spendyou know an hour talking to somebody and whatever it can be just somethingsimple or something in your day that reminds you of somebody else, thosethose are those. Are God considences you?Basically, if something comes in your head act on it, write it down, don't delay because there's you know somany thoughts that happene in our head every day that there's there's a reason why you'vebeen reminded of something and I'm learning to act on those more than ever,and I'm going to succeed more than I everhave because of it. I know it. I just know it. I love the the godcidents and for thepeople who have never heard this word, it's a God coincidence. Basically, we believe that nothinghappens for engine hi. It's not my chance. Trust me.Everything has a purpose. Every thought that comes across your head ispurposely put there. where, where do you think they came from really think about it? They come from somewhere far far away.Then it's not the next room. Trust me: It's not the next room. Everythingevery thought we have is for a reason and thtthat that you said was perfect. RobThere's O reason why you've been reminded of something like. Oh, mycomputers are Batti. Oh Wow, but yeah l set this up all right for reallyquickto. I will say, though, but it's also again. I can't stress enough. It'swho you hang out with, because, like talking to you and talking to the Aryou know our mutual friends, that's what gets you going and that's whatmotivates you you have to find that find those five people find those fivesongs find those five good fields that really just motivates you and get keepyou going and get you going and G to you know start sparking all of that inyour head, because when you do that the world is yours, yes, yes, wow rob!This has been such an amazing podcast. I loved every second of it and I hopeyou guys who are listening and watching this right now also enjoyed and gotsome good notes from it, because I definitely did I got some good as nosefrom it. So Rob Thank you for coming on with me. Thank you for sharing just alittle bit about yourself and trust me people. This man has a lot of morelayers than what you just heard and I...

...will be bringing him back on on anotherepisode, because there's a lot just a sneake beak, he has open twentyeight restaurants. That's we're Gonto talk about it eventually, but Yo. Hehas a lot of layers and I want to digest everything Hehas on his head andwe're going to pick on it because, as this was a wonderful episode anytimerob. Thank you. Thank you for coming on here. Thank you for your words ofknowledge, for your good advice, trust me. I took a lot of it to hard this. Ihad an awakening during this podcast, so woll. If you like this episode, pleaselike comment share and rate with a five star Ratisand, so other people knowthat we are sharing body on this podcast and youand. If you think thatwe gave some value to you, please let us know what phrase whatword, what part was of the most value to you and we will reach out back toyou and we will do anything for you literally. We love you guys. Thank youfor listening. Thank you for Tuning in and think you rob for this amazingopportunity to have this nice conversation with you. I love you man,Louis family. Thank you very much appreciate. Yes, we'll see you all onthe next adventure. This was lit, Martinas founder of ACITGLAITA togetherwith Rop Sea cardiness, and we will see you together on the next episode seeyou take care of my friend.

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